Wednesday, June 16, 2010

A Wish of A Child from Lower Middle Class Family


I was thinking of calling my parents since last few days, but i could get a chance to do so. Today i finally made a call back home. Telling them my wish, having a vacation with mum and dad in Europe. Well, it sound weird for a guy like me who will be quarter of century old by next year uttering such wish. Maybe because of my background. It might an easy task for some of you, but definitely not for me due to 2 reasons. Firstly, is the family financial status and secondly, dad's personality who always refuse us.LOL!

I was born in a lower middle class family, where both of my parents need to work. Since i was young, i was hardly in my home. When i was a child, i stayed with my paternal grandparents. A family full with rules and restrictions. Where i always been punished for my naughtiness.LOL! When i was 10, my beloved grandma passed away, i moved to my maternal side. By 14 years old (when i was form 2), i has been sent to boarding school in KL. During my high school(form 6), i continued my studies in my hometown,BUT... for the sake of convenience and of course freedom, i stayed most of the time at my grandpa's house instead of my house which is just 10 minutes awayxD. After my examination(STPM), i had my 6 months break, and spent the entire holiday working in Genting Highland. Later, i was offered to UKM to pursue my Mechanical Engineering degree starting July 2010 (by the age of 20) and now ended up in Duisburg-Essen University in Germany.

So, the time i have spent with my family was rather limited. I missed a lot of family trips/outing. You might ask, "if you seldom see them, you should not really close (in term of relationship) with them?" Yeap, i am not very close with my parents, especially when i was a kid. I hardly talk to my dad. As time goes on, i grew up, and every time i went back home, i really feel at HOME. So warm, so relaxing, at peace, and nothing to worry about. I was having fun staying home, having dinner together, watching mum and dad teasing each other, seeing my siblings body language (because the seldom talk).

Since last years, every time i went back, my heart pain seeing my parents. Every time, i see them, i realized that dad and dad getting older, there is more wrinkles on their facse, and more white hairs. But one think never changed, dad still work hard as usual. Running here and there, trying to earn more income for the family. For over 20 years he has been working so hard, and i was hoping that he can taking some break to be here with me in Germany.

So today, i called mum to come over here by end of this year with dad. Mum said that she has no problem coming over, but thetroublesome part wil be dad. And i called dad as well. Well, dad is always busy with his work, so you need a persuading skill when you talk to him. I remembered today when i asked him to come over, he said " Cannot, there is a load of work to do" for the 1st few times. Then i continue to persuade him, then he said " Hmm... we will see how is the arrangement first, but i guess i can't make it" He kept repeating the word " cannot" until i say "Please don't say no or can not when you haven't plan it. If you really want to come, we will figure out the way. But never say NO". Finally he stopped saying the word NO, but he kept saying "We will see how." LOL! Though he didn't say the word "YES" but i am assuming that he that he has agreed. Because it is my wish!

3 comments:

Gratitude said...

Awwww, it's alwiz so nice to read of filial piety. Perhaps your Dad has been putting off saying yes simply bcoz he is thinking of the high expenses to make the trip. I'm sure he would love to if he had no concerns.

Glad that your parents are so loving. You are blessed! ^_^
+Ant+

Mervin said...

Thanks ant. You seem to me my permanent reader.LOL!
Anyway, i am just a son that contribute nothing, but his mouth and his thought.

Anonymous said...

Tua ku here to kepo again. Every parent loves their children unconditionally, cause they like to see their offsprings sucessful.Thanks to your dad and mum for producing such a wonderful and loving nephew for me .Tua ku will help you to persuade your mum and dad to visit you in this beautiful Germany. Tau ku and tua kim just went to Europe during the June holidays that included Germany.We went to the Europe's tallest and biggest waterfall, the Rhine Falls, Lake Titisee and also the Cuckoo clock Centre and etc....Our trip includes London, Paris, Geneva Berne,Blackforest, Amsterdam and Brussels. Europe is wonderful and I fully support you in inviting them to Germany to see the other part of the world.