Monday, March 31, 2008

My Parent!!!

March…. The month of joy as well the month of tears in my personal calendar. The most happening month of the year. The date of birth of 3 people as well date of death of 2 people for the month. It’s the month where my beloved great-grandmother passed away when I was 11 and this year this month another tragic incident happen….compile up 2 memorial dates in the March.

Leave behind the sad stuff. I wanna to blog on my present life. Those 3 people I meant are my mum, my dad as well me myself. These two are the most important people in my life They showered me with care and love from the day I was born till the present. For 22 years. Can you imagine the sacrifices, care, love and compassion they have given to me every single day? That make me understand why in Buddhism, children should regard their elderly as god. Their noble action which I can never able to pay back things that they have done to me. They care me, love me, raise me, feed me, pampered me, concern about me, sacrifice for me, they support and educate me every single day. None stop!

Let me introduce my parents. Here is my dad. Just turned 51 years old this year. Look at him, what do think about him? Let me briefly tell you about him!

He actually a caring, soft-hearted dad though he always act tough to me. He been kinda strict especially when I was young, but somehow I never hate him, because I know what he done is for the sake of me. I do respect him because he is capable in doing a lot of thing as well knowledgeable to guide me and answer my doubt till today. But do be surprise, he only had his education till form 5 yet he understands a lot of stuff and well verse in English. What I mean capable is that he capable in electrical stuff, repairing house ware, as well making the well-designed furniture. And his is good in cook, even better than mum, instead sometime he cooked more frequent than my mum. Surprise?

Well I do really love his cooking. It’s delicious k. I do learnt a bit from him but still in the stage of learning. Lol. Every time when he knows I am coming back, he will start buying a lot of stuff and will makan besar for dinner. So you can say I hardly eat outside when I was home. When I was young, I prefer having dinner outside, but when you start staying out from your home, you will eventually miss the house cooking.

What things that he touched me? Of course a lot. Basically I don’t really have much conversation with my dad, maybe because I hardly stay in house. And he always cares and supports me without making me realized it. How I know? Of course mum the one who told me. He used to cook so herb soup for me when my exam coming. Ask my mum to pass me some pocket money from time to time. During dinner, he always left the best dish for us, while he just eats the minor. The thing that I remember well, is when my family having financial problem, my dad use to bring us for breakfast in noodle stall but to save up, he just buy those plain bread for his breakfast. I really don’t know what to say. Just wanna to tell him in face four words which till know I still not able to express out. I wanna to say “I love you dad”

Next will be my mum. What so interesting about her? She is 49 this year.Every time after I had a phone conversation with her, my friend will ask me “huh? You like that talk to you mum a?” Lol. Most of my friends surprised when I talk so casual with my mum. We always joke around even when we are in the middle of phone conversation. Every time I talk with her, we will end up laughing a load till my friends don’t really believe that I am actually talking to my mum. My mum really some one who can joke around, sometime she can even pop up a weird statement and ended up every laugh. Basically I do update my stuff to her from time to time. If I didn’t call her for sometime, she will called me asking me where I sat chong(missing in canto) haha…she is teasing me.

Compare to dad, mum is the person I normally approach and talk about mother- son conversation. She do always concern about me. When I was young she always keeps reminding me this and that till sometime feel a bit annoying. But I do realize that her reminders helped me a lots because I am the type of forgetful person. Every time when I wanna to go back to hostel, she will ask me “have you taken you wallet, handphone, wallet.....ect” I do sometime miss out some stuff, but thanks to her, I manage to bring all my stuff. She does have a very good memory, not like me forget this and that and she is the one that reminded me my schedule. She is the manager of the house. She in-charge in keeping all the documents, letters, bills,….ect. My house will in mess without her, because every time I need something, I just need to ask her a she will direct me to get the stuff in want. Perhaps we all( including my dad and my bro) to depending. She worked as a clerk in a lawyer firm long enough as the duration of my age. So she will advise us regarding agreements and letters. She even work on Saturday but at my dad shop, as usually checking the bills, accounts, documents, letters….ect. That why she always complaint that she don’t have enough time to rest.

Actually is true, mum and dad do wake up earlier in the morning about 6am, go market, ready up breakfast, doing the laundry then by 8.30am, go for work will evening 6pm. Back to house start preparing for dinner. Only about 8pm they are free. Chit chatting, watching TV together. And be 10pm the will be on bed. Like what I wanna say to my dad, wanna to say “ I love you mum” in front of her, but I still not manage to do it. Why? Haha…


***ps:It seem that my emo blog which i posted out affect other people feeling, so i have decide to deleted it and not to post such blog anymore. All these will be written in my personal book of emo.LOL

Friday, March 28, 2008

Is that me?

Do you think the picture above is me or not?
This is an arguable question.
Might be me and might not be me.
Does the picture above look like me?
Similar or the real of me?
What do you think?
Many people say that the picture is me, even those who close to me said that the picture is me.
Do you think so?
If not me, the who?
My brother?
Or my friend?
Or some stranger?
What do you think?
try and guess and leave your comment.

Friday, March 21, 2008

Who To Be Blame?

These days robberies, kidnapping, murder cases keep on increasing and the one who suffer was us as the Malaysian citizens. My grandpa was the victim of those criminal cases. And we as him family members suffer in deep pain due to his death. Who to be blame on such a incident? The suspects were two Indian in the age of 30s. Should they be blame? Or my grandpa who a hardworking humble guy to be blame? Or the police that lack of alertness to be blame?
In this case we should see the root of the criminals. Is the government that to be blame. Due to their policies, immigration of foreign workers, corruption and bias are the source of criminal. Government policies, import workers from others countries where the amount in millions cause the nation expose to outsider which identities unclear, reduced the job vacancy for us as Malaysians, due to cheap labor cost. As the result, Malaysians found jobless, out of desperate, the have to robs, steal and kill to survive. Those criminal are victims to the situation. But their criminal act still lay between their own judgment. Thus, the criminals and the government should be blame on such incident.
Malaysia is not more a save place, in fact we live fear, and worries. Just past 2 days, just few days after my grandpa incident, just in front my uni, UKM, a robbery occur, in public, and in the noon. I can't imagine what will happen to the future.
Who will be the one who change in to a better future? YOU!!! voice up your inner voice as Malaysian citizen,voice up your right. You don't want to live in fear are you? I remember a quote from my friend, fc, "It is okay to hate the Government, you just need to love your country." which i think quite suitable for this blog.
Be wise!!! Know your right!!!

Dilemma!!!!

Lately feel kinda moody, uninspired, stress and uneasiness. My mind always flew somewhere else when i was doing my stuff( provide i got the mood to do) Feel like the world so empty, feel so lazy. If possible, i just wanna to lay down on the bed and don't want to get up. For the past few days i always feel tired, just like lack of energy. As the result, i sleep early about 10pm, yet i will only wake up 15 minutes before the class started. Then rushed to the class everyday, but completely lost on what the lecturers teachers because i am too behind from the syllabus . Tutorial were completed just by "reffering" the others. Rushed to complete the last 2 lab reports.
Just by flashing back, i wonder why i am such a situation. I do asked myself. Is it due to my laziness? Or because of my grandpa funeral? Or because i sleep too early? Or other thing else? Or combination of all of those factors? I don't know. Yet that kind of weird feeling keep on distracting me. Making myself almost i sick condition.
In this 2 weeks many things happened. Starting from my birthday till today.
On my Bday you guys can read it on the blog, then come to my grandpa case, pbl, integrated project, stat and dynamics tutorials, lab reports,house rental stuff, tuition class,college certification for juniors,sze chung preaches, relationships atc....The are some of the stuffs that bothered me for these days.
Where is the ME i use to be? Where is the confidence i have in my latter?
Who can be with me, listen to me when i need someone? NONE!!! I have to pass these days all alone. When i need someone, none of them able to be with me.All i got were rejection and excuses. Though i should be open minded, practice Buddhism, free myself from illusion. But i still a mere human, a low being with ignorance. Bounded with feeling which i hardly let go........
Which all these days will be gone from me, because i living inside a mask. Stucked in a delusion world of reality..............

Monday, March 17, 2008

Mein Geburstag

I suppose to post this earlier but due to grandpa incident.... basically this was what i suppose to post it up earlier......

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I just realize that the day passes so fast. So basically this is what happens to me on 10th of March.

12.00am -start receiving messages and calls from friends

1.00am - zz……on bed

8.00am - wake up, get ready, and study a bit.

10.00am - Statistics tutorial, thanks to Chun Ta hand work on the white board,

those attended the class know today my birthday, luckily mostly Malay.

11.00am - Library read news papers.

12.00am - Lunch at faculty café.

2.00pm - Lab

3.00pm - back room zz

4.15pm - Revision for German test.

5.00pm - German class plus test. Luckily is easy plus Frau Hamidah is lenient.

7.00pm - Dinner somewhere near Kajang, at the temple site.

8.00pm -Went to Secret Recipe buy 2 pieces of cake, blueberry cheese and mango

delight. (Yummy!!!)

mango delight

Kasekuchen

8.30pm - Start playing computer games(warcraft 3)

11.00pm - Out with Kian Yuan, Tien Khoon, Kang Soon and Wei Koon at mamak

yumcha.

12.30am - Back room zz.

Overall that day I ended up doing nothing except busy for lab and the test. You might think such a pity for me to buy myself cake, but what so weird, me myself deserves it. Plus not every time I buy it and the cakes were not bad especially the mango flavor.

Just a flash, that the end of my Bday.

Thanks to those who send me messages and calls. Start from:

  1. Chee Hou
  2. Wai Si (call from Singapore)
  3. Chia Hooi
  4. Karen
  5. Mok
  6. Chooi Hong
  7. Leong
  8. Yee Fatt
  9. Winnie
  10. Swee Heong
  11. Inn Shan (msg from India )
  12. Hock Lye
  13. Kian Sin
  14. Seng Zhou
  15. Yu Qun
  16. Chee Hooi
  17. Kang
  18. Kang Soon
  19. Chee Seong
  20. Wen Zhi
  21. Foong Quan
  22. Kah Wei
  23. Ejay
  24. Jeff
  25. Weng Fatt
  26. Wei Song
  27. Mok Keat
  28. Kang Meng
  29. Chuan
  30. Jing Yan
  31. Tien Khoon
  32. Kian Choon
  33. Kian Yuan

Wow, around 30 messages, should the most out of so many years.Haven’t check my facebook and friendster yet. Thanks for remembering it. May you guy be well and happy.

I was surprise that actually there are readers for my blog, but sorry la, lately too busy to update it. Promise will do so when I am free.

HE DID NOT DESERVE THIS. HE IS INNOCENT!!!!

14th March 2008

Evening about 5.30pm called my mum to inform me that I am going to Kang Soon’s dad funeral ceremony. My mum told me that she was in the Ipoh hospital. Ahkong (grandpa) get robbed at hit by the robber. At first I thought maybe just a normal robbery and only minor injury since he is tall and healthy. So, went to Seremban with bunch of friends, but somehow my mind get distracted will uneasiness feeling but manage to cover it.

About 10 plus, reach my dorm; I immediately call my mum to update ahkong situation. BUT.... my mum answer me in tears that ahkong just PASS AWAY!!!

On no, I have lost another ahkong. Last year was my paternal grandpa and now my maternal grandpa. I was so shocked!!!! My mum asked me to go back tomorrow with my brother, Aaron and take some rest and don’t rush back.

That night I tried to sleep early, but failed, I seem like I didn’t sleep the whole night, probably an hour or 2. By 7.30am I woke up, pack my stuff and pick up my brother about 8.30am and reached home about 11.45am.Once I reached, my mum told me that ahkong body yet to arrive bcoz the police need to do post-mortem due to murder case.

By 2.30pm, we went to my grandma’s house waiting for HIM to reach home. Once we entered the house, I saw grandma is crying. See called me and hugged me and with tears she say in hokkien, “ Momin, ahkong chao liao. E khua be tiuk lu ti si kak bo liao!” meaning “Mervin, grandpa gone d. He can’t see you on your graduation d!( he won’t able to see you wearing 4 edges hat which mean graduation hat)”

Of course my tears eventually dropped from my eyes. I even can’t say a single thing to comfort her coz like her, my heart also in pain.

By 3.30pm HE finally back home. Everyone gathered at the house entrance to welcome HIM. From the moment ahkong’s body reached, every single of the family members in tears, calling “ahkong/ah pa kau chu liao” meaning “ grandpa/father reach home d”

The undertakers took down ahkong’s coffin without cover. On everyone saw his face, cries even worse. Every cry with tears saying “ yuan wang(innocent)”, grandma almost fainted. Ahkong face full of bruises and stitches on top his head. His eyes bruise red in color with his lip turn dark. He was brutally hit by the robber until we almost can recognize him. It’s so horrible. When I saw his face I can’t even believe this is my ahkong. He is really innocent, victim of robbery. He do not deserve such a ending.

Later they put up some make up on him, and put on the coffin cover. Even after the undertaker put make up on him, they still can’t fully cover up those bruises on the face. The bruises on the eyes later turn dark in color.

For the whole day 2 days, I never see grandma eyes without tears. The pain of the heart she experienced just like being stabbed several time in her heart. Image some one who you a staying together with for more than 50 years suddenly varnished. Someone who you eat together, stay together, travel together and sleep next to you every night disappear from your life. How do you feel? This is what my grandma experiencing now. She say “ahkong chao pun bo kau tai. A ne kuan to ki liao” meaning “ ahkong want to go also didn’t give a signal/message. Just go like only”

My heart pain every time I look at ahkong picture and his face in the coffin. He really didn’t deserve it. Even my aunt say “ no you got such a nice photo with such a face” No matter how many time I see his face, I can’t believe that was my grandpa. My heart even more pain whenever tears come out from my grandma when she talk, she will eventually ended up crying.

Last night, I tell Ahmah that I am going back KL tomorrow, due to the last lab and the visit of gardenia factory this Tuesday.Ahmah(grandma) say, study more important, ahkong chao d, can’t do anything d. Ahkong will understand. Before I went back is hugged ahmah and tell her “ ahmah ai u chiak,ai ko hou ka ki. Kiou ahkong pang sim ki” ( Grandma, you must eat, must take care. Ask ahkong go without worry) She say will, and asked me to drive carefully, don’t simply go out, be careful.

I am back UKM, starting journey by 9.30am. While driving, kind of over speed. My mind some how flash back the past, the moment when ahkong ride me to chung chen, give me some pocket money before class. I even remembered what he and my greatgrandmother said during their prayer. Po pi wa eh soon/kana soon pin an bo shu, tak chek gao gao”- “ protect my grandchildren/greatgrandchildren(which is me when I was your, since I am their eldest grandchildren) safe without any problem. May he excel in his study” That what they prayed everyday in front of the gods statue when I was young. While driving, tears dropped from my eyes, reflecting the care and love they had for me.

AHKONG I LOVE YOU!!!

*ps: you can ready the news I get from nst, the star, Nanyang, Sin Chew, and China Press on 16th March 2008(Sunday)

China Press news paper

Nanyang (Perak state edition) news paper

from Sin Chew news paper.

The Star news paper

New Strait Times